Wall Flowers

       Do you remember those kids back in High School that always sat next to the wall, out of peoples way? Sitting there praying to God that no one talks to them or points them out. The ones who just want to blend into the wall and become a wall flower. Watching, waiting and looking out for the next thing to happen. Have you ever wondered what was going through their head, what they were thinking? Or were you one of the many who ignored them or didn't even see them sitting there?
       Some of them are quiet because they do not think they have anything to offer, that their opinion doesn't matter. Some may even think that because they do not know anyone else in the room, fear stops them for joining in the conversation or activity. Maybe it is because they have been hurt before in a similar atmosphere and do not want to be hurt again? It could even be just because they are shy, plain and simple.
       Regardless of the reason behind the "why" people do what they do, there is one common thing in all of these reasons. That common denominator is fear. Fear of speaking up or voicing what is inside. Fear that they are not as good as other people even when others see clear as day that they are. Fear that what they say actually matters and can make a difference.
       Like the tulip above, we are all fragile and delicate. Yes even you men are whether you want to admit it or not. There is a soft spot in everyone and when that is hit upon, we see the outward expression of it. Many times with the male gender, it is seen as anger or physical reaction. With the female gender, it is often expressed though tears.
       Regardless of who it is or why 'seclusion" is utilized, it is all the same. Acceptance of who the person is regardless of outward appearance or gender. We need to make a point to try and help those individuals, help them feel more comfortable. Include them in conversation and show them that they are worth listening to. That their opinion matters, that they themselves matter. So wipe away the fear and step out, reach out to the wall flowers in your life. Who knows what a difference you can make in someone else's life.